WhatHaveIDone

What Have I Done!

Guilt

They say that every time we do something wrong, there is this tiny little voice that keeps on nagging us. We call it a guilty conscience. What happen when this ‘little’ voice begins to become increasingly loud? in fact it starts becoming so loud that it begins to drown out your own voice. Read more

iNeedPeace

I Need Peace

Your dad wants you to be the best there is, your mum wants you to be like Sharma uncle’s son, who is currently working in some MNC in some corner of the world. Your siblings look up to you, your relatives want you to be a role model for their kids and all you want is Peace. Read more

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What Do People Want From Me?!

Most of us spend our lives with the weight of the world on our shoulders! trying our hardest, giving it our all to bear all that responsibility that gets thrown our way. Your mother wants you to get a good job and settle down. Your friends expect you to help them out of sticky spots and have fun with them, the rest of your relatives keep expecting you to be perfect and be a mentor to your cousins. Read more

GveUp

I Can’t Give Up

You’ve been tried to quit for a while now, but every time you find yourself weak and unable to stay strong in the face of temptation. The bonds of your addiction are too strong and you’ve all but become a slave to your habit. I won’t pretend to know how you feel and I am not here to tell you that what you are doing here is wrong/right because you already know that. Read more

YouAreNotAlone

You’re Not Alone

Loneliness can be a terrible thing. The feeling that there is no one out there thinking about you is probably the worst kind of feeling there is. That weird pang in your gut that you get when you think that no one out there will even notice if tomorrow you were to disappear off the face of the earth and you come to a sad conclusion and decide ‘Nobody loves me’.

Somebody Cares!

All of us go through this phase in our lives when we think that we are insignificant and that there is scarce that we can do on this planet that would change that fact. That we are only a speck on the face of this planet and that no matter what we do, it is meaningless and nobody cares. But you know what? I got some good news for you. There is always someone out there who cares. There’s someone out there who is very concerned about you and everything that you do. Someone who is happy when you are walking in the light and someone who gets sad when you are lost. There is someone who loves u so much that he was even willing to sacrifice his own son so that you won’t have to suffer eternal pain; and you know what? he actually did sacrifice his son to save your life and mine!

God Loves You

God loves you. From the day you were born to right now and till the day you are here and even after that, he will always love you. An unchanging love that will never falter, never fail and will always come through for you! And he wants nothing in return except that you love him too. so you see? you are never alone, you are not insignificant and you are not unloved! God loves you!

Lost

LOST…

Sometimes I wish life came with a map and a set of instruction manual. Kind of like a video game usually does. That helps you make the right choice for your character and face off against enemies and obstacles and plan for them before they come! that would be so much more convenient wouldn’t it? That map would tell you exactly where to go and the instruction manual would give you the perfect strategy to face or avoid the obstacles without any effort! Life would be so easy! or well at least it would be manageable. How amazing it would be to never feel lost!

In this maze we have come to know as life, it is quite easy to lose our way and direction. Taking a wrong turn and ending up at a dead end is actually just as easy as breathing and then what follows is a sense of utter helplessness. But unlike a maze in life we cannot just walk backwards to the point where we took the wrong turn and take a different decision. And also fortunately unlike a maze, a dead end is not always what it seems. There is a way out, there is always a way out and a long time ago, Someone actually came down from heaven to show us that way.

God has a plan in all our lives, and sometimes they don’t match with our plans, so when he nudges you in the right direction you start thinking ‘This is not where I wanted to go…’ So to all of you who think you are lost, I got a message for you, you’re not. And if you feel lost I know someone you can talk to. In fact he wants you to come and talk to him. The question is are you willing? are you ready to tell him everything and above all trust him enough to accept his help and start walking in the path that he sets in front of you? Are you ready to trust him enough to know that where you stand right now is actually the best place for to be, for you to fulfill the purpose that he has set for you?

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Let’s talk s**…. Hmmm nope…

Christians tell they don’t do certain things because the Bible forbids them to do so, but if Christianity is a lifestyle how can we stop there? I am one of these people who would encourage us to go further and ask why the bible says so and in what context. It is essential to develop a conviction towards why we do and don’t do certain things. Otherwise it just becomes a law, which we are eager to break any day and gives us a deep feeling of guilt if we break them.

So yeah coming back to the topic, the Bible clearly tells us that God isn’t pleased with sexual immorality. We have thousands of questions running in our heads when we come across these verses like hey is it ok after marriage? Then what are marriage, just exchanging rings? So is marriage the license to have sex? What if I save myself for the one and my marriage sucks, making me feel even more miserable? Phew. Sex is either overrated or undermined aint it? I’m just going to put it this way sex is a choice, I know people are raising your eyebrows at me right now but wait till you hear it all.

Keeping sex as a choice let’s consider few situations here. Let’s say you are so madly in love with this guy or girl and you are damn sure you’re going to marry that person or you just don’t believe marriage is an external thing. Sex (even if you wanna call it making-love) is a part of this package and then one day things go wrong and you break up. You are left with this hurt, guilty and you regret life all together. There are thousands of people living like this and don’t be surprised but the only thing that haunts them every day even after years is the sexual relationship they shared and either one of them or both feel they were used and sex, that was designed to be beautiful turns into disgust. These people are living their past in the present and it will continue in the future too. They don’t believe in love, when they find the right person they can’t but look at them through the past.

Then there are these people who are so done with relationships and immune to getting hurt that all they prefer are one night stands. There are continually in search for something that they don’t find and they just carry on day after day doing the same thing. Unplanned pregnancy, STD’s, abortions, crimes etc come with this package. A lot of people out there are searching for a person to love them and you have other people who can do the love act just to get you to bed.

I know I know people reading this are like hey why you so negative dude? Why can’t you just look into the brighter things in life? Ooofff… Remember I told sex is a choice and I am talking for the majority. So the majority are the people who have ruined their marriages, cant fall in love again, spoil their health, can’t afford to bring up a child and choose to abort instead. These are the reasons that sex is a big thing yet not everything. It takes a lot of wisdom to decide. What looks sugar coated for many years can have something bitter inside. We can go on all day and night arguing about this but this isn’t as simple as trying a new dish at an awesome restaurant. Don’t get this wrong, your value is not determined by physical things but I’m definitely talking about the emotions involved in this. This is not only for women as some cultures and traditions tell us, I’m here talking for both men and women. I can just go on and on and tell the other gruesome things that happen because of wrong decisions.

Mannn why is sex even such a big deal? Why is my purity based on this? Why are we glorifying it and why are there so called weird consequences? My question right back at you is so simple if sex is just so simple and just another thing for you then wouldn’t it be like a hug you give a friend on the road? If the intention behind sex is not love then I can’t imagine how the world would turn out to be. There are things designed for a specific purpose, we can’t try to change this around and call it radical or modern.

Here we go would you risk it all and or would you consider every detail that comes with it? I’m just putting this question before you to think and not judge. If you have messed up, I would just say pray and know that where sin abounds grace abounds more. Let’s just not take God’s love and grace for granted though. For the others who are more eager to try it out or feel you are a risk taker and nothing can get you down, I have just these words for you – God loves you just the way you are and will wait patiently for you, but would you hurt someone who loves you so much? Remember that what hurts God the most is to see you being hurt. I’m finishing off with this question again sex is a choice, what do you choose? Do your choices affect people, moreover does it glorify God? Let’s take efforts together to search and learn more as to why the Bible asks us to stay away from certain things.

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Fighting the shambles of the world

I’m starting off with something about me because I feel this could be relevant to this topic. I’m just a normal young woman who is fun loving and spends most of her leisure time watching loads of movies and videos. Media is an integral part of my life. As a teenager I have had struggles as every other teenager would have and I have grown out of them or let’s say those weren’t the areas I struggled with the most. I can watch a movie and not remember much of it, talk about it being blessing or my memory lol. I feel I have reached some kind of maturity in my journey where I can filter what I want to take. This is not me being proud but purely honest. I just know that I would never slip while walking on a busy street and this insanely handsome (hot.. being real here) young man would hold me, our eyes would meet and we would fall in love and live happily ever after. I wish I can change it to joyfully ever after because joy doesn’t depend on circumstances..kidding.. I mean like the director of the movie is pretty sure that certain things that are in his/her movie wouldn’t happen in real life, its only we the audience who are super excited to try stuff. I’m going to talk about the impact of sitcoms, movies, advertisements etc on our teens or just other people in general. I believe even older people struggle in these areas and I’m going to keep it real and raw. Apologies in advance for the language or words I might use where necessary.

Advertisements these days are longer, more interesting and very creative and yet some convey wrong messages. You know you could turn this young woman on and make her feel sexier if you used this fragrance or you can even make angels fall from heaven haha. You could definitely get this job if you used this cream or go to this parlor.Talking about the ads for condoms – you definitely know you could drill with colors (don’t look at me like that, its true). You are a man if you get this car and next year the same company tells you to be a man and get their latest car. What is this? Renewing your manhood? I can’t but laugh. Sadly people fall prey for all this nonsense and land up in a major identity crisis. They want to alter their bodies and find identity in the things they own because they have forgotten what it is to be fearfully and wonderfully made. One day if they lose all this they want to die. Sad but true.

Many of you must have watched movies like friends with benefits, crazy stupid love etc. Yup they were fun to watch but we don’t stop there do we? We go to the next level to believe that sex with a friend is ok, if you could get more women to bed then you are having all it takes, to get your wife back you need to make her jealous by sleeping with other women. Sex doesn’t seem like a great deal, the purpose it was designed for is totally lost. So our ultimate aim becomes to get pleasure without any commitment leading to broken families and don’t blame a child when he grows up without values and doesn’t know to respect women.

I am not talking about men alone here. Women objectify themselves sometimes even before a man does it. Wrecking Ball by Miley Cyrus, Anaconda by Nicki Minaj, mannn its just porn. Don’t tell a man screens you when you’re walking towards him and turns his head around to screen when you pass by. I am not being judgmental here and I totally agree to the fact that conservative means different in different cultures but that doesn’t give us the liberty to be provocative. Songs like this encourage that you could get a man if you strip before him. So love doesn’t matter anymore, just the physical stuff. Our poor little girls have too many things to concentrate on now.

We have to choose what we see and also ask God for the wisdom to decide. It is also important to advise our children and talk to them when they are struggling with issues related to porn, sexual orientations and having identity problems based on these.

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The LINE

While it is the human nature to look and strive and keep aspiring for something or the other in continuum, we as Christians might find it difficult to actually draw the line (in a Christian way, of course) of where exactly to stop. So how do we draw this line or identify that thin line of separation between contentment and competent. To identify this, we need to explore further into what we actually long for.

Generally we all long for more money, fantastic career, fancy cars and electronic gadgets, right relationships, perfect looking skin (I mean men too!) and societal power.

Isn’t it strange that we more than happily agree to buy a book or a video CD on ‘How to be Creative, Confident, and Competent’ to help us experience what ought to come naturally? We are ready to oblige and nod to the conclusions of the author whom we have not known or shaken hands with or even laid our eyes upon. Aren’t we overlooking the theme of ‘contentment’?  Now, you might say, “Not when we’ve been programmed to compete, achieve, increase, fight, and worry our way up the so-called “ladder of success” (which few can even define).

Face it. You and I are afraid that if we open the door of contentment, two uninvited guests will rush in: loss of prestige and complacence. We really believe that “getting to the top” is worth any sacrifice.

A teacher who is competent, contented, and fulfilled in the classroom is frowned upon if she turns down an offer to become a principal. A man or woman who serves as an assistant or in any kind of support position in a ministry, company, or the military frequently wrestles with feelings of discontentment until he or she is promoted to the so-called “top rung.”

Paul says, “Not that I was ever in need, for I have learned how to be content with whatever I have.”

Now, is it wrong to be rich or powerful or beautiful?

It is not wrong!

The problem crops in, when we shift our focus from being excellent to glorify God, to becoming greedy, which allows one to possess wealth and goods and the ways include subjugating others to obtain it. The intention and deeds are entirely focused on obtaining goods and there is no involvement of God anymore.

That’s when we need to stop and think. God blesses us with what we need. He wants us to be excellent, stand out, to be strong and courageous, exert dominion over all things and glorify His matchless name. In the process of which, some of us tend to side track and starve the spirit. There is the caution line. Watch out!

“If they obey and serve him, they shall spend their days in prosperity and their years in pleasure” – Job 36: 11

This is not easy to implement. We will be out-numbered, out-voted and we will have to fight our urge to conform to the world but it is a learning process. It is not enjoyable until we are convinced that we are listening to the right drummer and when we are, our strings are cut and we are free.

He who knows that enough is enough will always have enough.

 

 

-Maggie Gerard

FirstStep

Take that First Step

Matthew 14:22-33 is one of my favorite passages in the Bible. It talks about Jesus walking on the water. After feeding the 5000, Jesus sends His disciples in a boat to cross the Sea of Galilee. After He had sent them, He went up on a mountainside by Himself to pray.  Several hours later in the night, the disciples encounter a storm. Jesus comes to them, walking on the water. The disciples are terrified not knowing its Jesus. Jesus tells them, “Take heart! It is I. Do not be afraid.” Peter replies, “Lord, if it’s You, tell me to come to You on the water.” So Jesus invites Peter to come. Peter gets out of the boat and begins walking on the water toward Jesus. But when Peter takes his eyes off Jesus and sees the wind and waves, he begins to sink. Peter cries out to the Lord and Jesus immediately reaches out His hand and catches Peter saying, “O you of little faith, why did you doubt?”  As they climb into the boat together, the storm ceases. Then the disciples worship Jesus, saying, “Truly you are the Son of God.”

We get a lot of things from this passage that we can meditate on. The first thing that struck me is we’re so busy looking at our problems that we sometimes don’t recognize the Lord when He comes to us in the middle of our “storms.” We think we can handle everything on our own, but the truth is we can’t and we’ve just got to hold on to Jesus because He has it all figured out. Peter had the faith and trust in Jesus to walk on water which is truly scary and intimidating. It was in the middle of a storm but he still decided to take a step of faith trusting that God will direct his steps. That is just what God wants from us, unshakable faith.

But later in the passage, we read that for a split second Peter loses sight of Jesus, the one who was keeping him above the waves. He starts to look around at the storm and that is the moment he started sinking. But as soon as he calls out to the Lord for help, he was lifted to the place of security again. Taking our eyes off Jesus, and focusing on the difficult circumstances will cause us to get under our problems. But when we cry out to Jesus, he catches us by the hand and raises us above the seemingly impossible surroundings.

Finally, we see that when Jesus gets in the boat, the storm ceases. When we have Jesus “in our boat” the storms of life will be calmed and we can worship Him.

We all know that life is full of doubts. But many of us try to swim through the problems on our own. We need to realize that the real safety and strength lies with God who charted out the course in the first place. He’s never failed us. We must take a step of faith towards God’s will for us which means we’ve got to trust Him even as we walk on uneven waters.

We will go through difficult, faith-testing circumstances in our lives. But we must not sink into despair. Instead, we must look to Jesus and His miraculous power for help. Let us just trust God with all our heart and believe that He’s going to take care of us along the way.  

 

 

Gracia